LIFE: A History Of My Birthday Parties & The Infinite Pain They Bandage

One of my very first birthday flyers (by Oscar Sanchez), circa 2004? I always wanted the nickname “Chainsaw” hence “Chainsaws Birthday Massacre”.


For those of you who follow me and have been following me, you know all about my birthday soirees.

Every year, since about 2007 or 2008, I have had a BIG BIRTHDAY PARTY. Why you may ask? Well, I’m not that girl that loves her birthday…in fact, I’ve hated getting older since I was 15 years old. Maybe it was because at that age I was already clubbing, attending a prestigious high school (on scholarship) and working 2 jobs. I must have known then that life could and would only get harder as time when on. And…so it does, sigh!

I realized that having birthday parties allows me to focus all my attention on the event and not the stinging ailment otherwise known as age.


In 2005, I had a birthday party and invited all my friends. When I came outside later, the security informed me that folks who weren’t on my list that I had never heard of wanted to come and party too. I thought to myself, “why exclude those folks who want to celebrate my dreaded birthday with me?”. I’m lucky to have people that I know who love and support me, but there are also people out there that I don’t know who also support me – I hated the idea of excluded them. Besides, I’ve always hated door policys/dress codes/ etc…it’s so alienating and weird.



With the help of my party 1992, I took my birthday a step further at Lotus on 14th Street. Friends and Family were listed for easy entry and those whom I did not know but wanted to party with me were allowed entry by paying a small fee. That seemed to work perfectly. VIPS and Tastemakers, Friends and Strangers – all under one roof. My camera died and I have no photos from this night, sad to say.



Me and Oscar

Raul Lopez and Me



I had my first shindig at Santos and it was another hit. This time Sprite Green came in as a sponsor and I unveiled my yet-to-be-famous Jordan 3 Birthday Cake (later inspiring Kanye West and his Yeezy Sneaker Cake). This cake also helped me solidify my Jordan Sneaker Deal when they saw what a crazy fool I was for Jordans!

Artwork by Doves TCK the greatest! The theme for that year was “Ultra Violette”. This was also a time in my life that I didn’t know how to dress like a girl. I mean, I really had no flavor when it came to dressing up. I was so good at everyday boy style that when it came to being girly – I thought, “tight dress and heels”. Good thing I have grown and learned!

Kid Cudi

Jus Ske, Me and Q-Tip

DJ Huggy Bear, Elle Clay and Me



In 2010, I had upcoming (now well-known) artist Theophilus London perform a set at my party. My birthday cake that year was a trio of pink and purple dice, for my favorite dice game cee-lo. It was an incredible night…



After so much pressure from my darling gay male friends to “step it up”, I got my hair done and wore an extraordinary dress by my friend Dominique Auxilly. My look was a hit and even my old friend Lupe came through. I also had the homie Big Krit perform, that was an incredible night.



it was a little bit more low-key. I had a smaller and simpler soiree at Beauty & Essex (thanks to Luck and Israel), but a lot of my super awesome friends rolled through; Pusha T, QuestLove, Chef Roble, etc.

QuestLove and Me

Me, Adriana and Celasia


Here we are at 2013.

Posted in BLOG

THROWBACK: Joe – “Stutter”

Thanks to reader, Robin, for sending this link. I couldn’t find it for so long and I do prefer this version better!

Posted in BLOG, throwback

STEELO: Julia Sarr Jamois

Jessica – Vintage Virgin

Welcome to my latest addition to Vashtie.Com, titled…eh em…Steelo. It will be a new category spotlighting incredible style icons that I absolutely drool over. Like everything else I love and blog, it will range and expose various kinds of people from all walks of life…from fictional characters to musicians to women in fashion to randoms.

Drew Barrymore (circa 90’s)

It is meant to honor those with incredible style, style which is personal and cannot be purchased in a store or by a stylist – but, at times I will also honor those stylists who give certain artists the looks they are heralded for, because that is also important.

Brandy as “Moesha”

I think this latest blog category was also inspired by my article written for Complex Magazine “The 50 Most Stylish Women In New York Right Now”. I discovered and researched so many incredible women with fantastic style. A lot of them were not based in New York, and as the article stated – I couldn’t include them due to their location. BUT – I can post about anyone I like here!

As mentioned in the article I wrote (oh yeah, I am about to quote myself)…

“Style is very important to me, like it is to many. It has nothing to do with the designers one can afford, the stylist one can hire, or the stylish person one can bite. It represents who you are and represents your essence without you having to utter a word…”

Now –

I present to you…my first Steelo post…one of my latest drool-worthy obsessions…

Miss Julia Sarr Jamois.

You may have already spotted this beautiful brown fox on style blogs, just take a good look. This half French/half Senegalese London Native is incredible and her style is a mix of thrift rocker meets ethnic fashion goddess. She currently holds the title of Fashion Editor at Wonderland Magazine and although some half attempted to xerox her style, this look is all her own.

I’m not a fan of cigarettes, but I’ll let this slide on her…she’s French, afterall.

This Varsity Jacket and Nike ensemble is incroyable!


Okay, you are now allowed to Google her as you wish and fall in fashion love at your own risk!

Posted in BLOG, steelo Tagged with: , , ,

SCHOOL GIRL CRUSH: Vincent Gallo (To Have A Baby By Vincent Gallo You Need To Be A Millionaire)

I first stumbled upon this strange yet beautiful creature in the early 90’s starring in Calvin Klein ads. His striking looks either confused you or intrigued you. As time went on, I started to see him more often. If he wasn’t starring in a dark Indie Film like “Buffalo ’66” or “Brown Bunny” or modeling in major fashion campaigns, he could be found galavanting in the streets of New York acting out as the controversial man that he is known to be.

Vincent Gallo is an American film director, writer, model, actor and musician.

“Gallo was born in Buffalo, New York, the son of Janet, a hair-dresser, and Vincenzo Vito Gallo, also a hairdresser and professional gambler. Both of his parents emigrated from Sicily, Italy. Gallo lived in New York City 1978–2002 and traveled around most of Europe living in Paris and Rome. Gallo’s first creative project was as a member of the New York City-based post-punkindustrial band GRAY whose members included famed artist Jean-Michel Basquiat.” – via Wikipedia


Gallo has had minor roles in mainstream films such as Goodfellas, Arizona Dream, The Funeral and Palookaville.  He is most known for his work with independent movies, including Buffalo ’66, which he wrote, directed, scored and starred in and The Brown Bunny, which he also wrote, directed, produced, starred in and photographed (the film is famous for Gallo receiving actual on camera oral sex via Chloe Sevigny).


In the late 1970s and early 1980s, Gallo was a painter in the New York City art scene showing with famed art dealer Annina Nosei, performed in a rap duo and was part of the first hip hop television broadcast Graffiti Rock, and played in an industrial band called Bohack which released an album title It Took Several Wives.


Part of Gallo’s appeal is that he is stark raving mad – in my opinion. He is a supporter of the Republican Party, and has been seen at a New York fashion show with George W. Bush’s daughters Barbara and Jenna. Gallos has stated that his fantasy is “becoming more like the stereotype of the Republican Party.” He also wishes to look “more like American conservative journalist George Will.” In his own words, Gallo “considered himself a radical, always, but an extremely conservative radical.”

This man is so crazy, I love it! Take for example the “Merchandise” section of his personal website (which I discovered years ago), under “Personal Services” you can find options like “VINCENT GALLO evenings, weekends escort” where for a mere $50,000 you can have a date with this Italian Stallion (“Ladies Only” as stated on his website). See an excerpt below.


“I, Vincent Gallo, star of such classics as Buffalo 66 and The Brown Bunny have decided to make myself available to all women. All women who can afford me, that is. For the modest fee of $50,000 plus expenses, I can fulfill the wish, dream, or fantasy of any naturally born female. The fee covers one evening with Vincent Gallo. For those who wish to enjoy my company for a weekend, the fee is increased to a mere $100,000. Heavy set, older, red heads and even black chicks can have me if they can pay the bill. No real female will be refused. However, I highly frown upon any male having even the slightest momentary thought or wish that they could ever become my client. No way Jose. However, female couples of the lesbian persuasion can enjoy a Vincent Gallo evening together for $100,000. $200,000 buys the lesbos a weekend. A weekend that will have them second-guessing…
Potential clients are advised to screen the controversial scene from The Brown Bunny to be sure for themselves that they can fully accommodate all of me. Clients who have doubt may want to test themselves with an unusually thick and large prosthetic prior to meeting me. You may be surprised just how much you can handle and how good it feels.”

Wait – it gets better! For $1,000,000.00 you can get Vincent Gallo’s Sperm! Yes, you read that right. Sounds like a bargain, right?! Read another incredible excerpt below…

Though a fan of Franco Harris, Derek Jeter, Lenny Kravitz and Lena Horne, Mr. Gallo does not want to be part of that type of integration. In fact, for the next 30 days, he is offering a $50,000 discount to any potential female purchaser who can prove she has naturally blonde hair and blue eyes. Anyone who can prove a direct family link to any of the German soldiers of the mid-century will also receive this discount. Under the laws of the Jewish faith, a Jewish mother would qualify a baby to be deemed a member of the Jewish religion. This would be added incentive for Mr. Gallo to sell his sperm to a Jew mother, his reasoning being with the slim chance that his child moved into the profession of motion picture acting or became a musical performer, this connection to the Jewish faith would guarantee his offspring a better chance at good reviews and maybe even a prize at the Sundance Film Festival or an Oscar. To be clear, the purchase of Mr. Gallo’s sperm does not include the use of the name Gallo. The purchaser must find another surname for the child.”

I forgot how hilarious this man is. I had a good morning laugh just now…ahhh.

Posted in BLOG, school girl crush Tagged with: , , , , , , ,

SPECIAL DELIVERY: Budweiser Bow-Tie Shaped Can x Made In America Festival

Special thanks to the folks at PMKBNC for sending me the brand new Budweiser Bow-Tie Can Package. It’s so cute and easy to grip! Can’t wait for the Made In America Festival. I needs to be there!


Posted in BLOG, special delivery