the other day ELLE and i were having one of our random chats. it began with the topic of a young man who had recently emotionally exploded on my blog regarding a past post (it was quite humorous actually). we thought for sure he was a bored female tween (which would have made sense), but when we figured out he was a straight male adult – it blew my mind. i thought, “wow – straight boys do things like that”?! ELLE let me know right away that THIS is the straight man of today, emotional and more feminine than you could imagine.
our discussion carried on into the epidemic plaguing the modern day man.
it’s what i like to refer to as, “THE SISSIFICATION OF MODERN MAN”.
(ELLE calls it the “THE BITCH-ASSNESS OF MODERN MAN”)
it has become so trendy, i’m unsure if its even possible for the majority of people to notice this breed. i’ll try and break him down anyways…
1. KNOWS/TALKS MORE ABOUT FASHION THAN ANY FEMALE OR GAY FRIEND YOU KNOW
2. CHECKS BLOGS OBSESSIVELY TO BE “ON TOP OF THE GAME”
3. THINKS ITS OKAY TO USE SOCIAL NETWORKING AND ONLINE SITES TO VENT EMOTIONALLY
*PLEASE NOTE: THE SPECIES IS STRAIGHT, DESPITE INDICATORS THAT TELL YOU OTHERWISE!
okay, some of these boys have on of those attributes or all. one could be defined as EMOTIONALLY DRAMATIC, the other FASHION OBSESSED, and another can be both – EMOTIONALLY DRAMATIC AND FASHION OBSESSED (the hardest type to deal with).
now, this breed of man wasn’t always this way. 5 years ago, your average straight guy couldn’t identify who PIERRE HARDY was, let alone pronounce BALENCIAGA correctly. i can recall the conversation of fashion being too “GAY” for most of them, now hood boys are running around discussing how ALEXANDER MCQUEEN changed “the game” and why KARL LAGERFELD is an icon.
i call it “SURFACE FASHIONABLE”. a few years ago, even if these boys were “into fashion”, you’d ask them their favorite designer and they’d say “LOUIS VUITTON” – not aware that LOUIS has been dead and gone for a long time and that MARC JACOBS is the current brain behind the brand.
*”DOUG” (RICH SOMMER), ANDY’s super fashion forward but straight friend from “THE DEVIL WEARS PRADA (2006)
it seems, the onset of blogs (and the ultimate re-blog of that one blog post) and certain famous men who have suddenly been bit by the high fashion bug who also make it a habit to vent their emotions on every public platform possible are to blame.
as a straight girl who has many gay friends and an older gay brother to boot, if a straight guy approached me and said; “I LOVE YOUR LANVIN CLUTCH”, my natural response would be “THANKS GIRL”. i mean, it’s just too jarring. the only boys who compliment me on my labels are the ones who want to wear my pieces, ie: usually gay boys. i think a compliment to my style or fashion is nice, but a compliment to prove you’re versed in the language of fashion is too obvious.
it’s not to say that a man can’t like or even love fashion, because i know plenty that do and are secure in their manhood – but this breed is different. being dapper has been important for for ages…but these boys who are SUDDENLY so forced about being fashion forward (and i say suddenly because it’s obvious which ones are trying) are a major scratch in a record that makes most girls stop and go “WHAT?”.
don’t get me wrong. i understand those weird, off the beaten path boys – they’re my favorites. i’m a gal that has always had a penchant for artsy boys who like art and design, with a different style of dressing who were in touch with their emotional side. i listen to MORRISSEY and DONNIE HATHAWAY – i love men who aren’t afraid to say how they feel…
then there is ELLE, who is the opposite. she likes big muscular boys who watch sports, know how to be the “classic man” and fix cars or drink beer and don’t talk. our interests are so opposite – YET we still agree that this new style of boy is “not the business”.
that same boy also likes to talk incessantly about how they feel, not in the privacy of their own personal friendships – but rather using social networks. i like a boy who can identify his feelings in person or through art and even through writing (blogs, etc). being emotional is not the issue, it’s the level of exhibitionism which is strange.
by feminine, I DO NOT MEAN GAY. let’s be clear. some of my closest gay male friends are the most MASCULINE and GENTLEMAN-LY men i know; holding doors open for females, assertive with their feelings and not emotional, have an understanding for fashion – but have nothing to prove by fawning over it.
“Straight dudes today know about fashion and pitch fits now.
That is the new straight man. It’s okay these days to type that stuff and not be ‘suspect’.
I can’t with these boys out here knowing more about fashion than me, checking blogs.
If a dude bragged to me “I saw some shoes when I was on a BLOG”
I’d be like “what? Nigga you should be on the BLOCK!
Upon the words “SKINNY JEANS” we are breaking up.
JUST GIVE ME DON DRAPER!”
HYUN (my male friend) SAID:
“A man can like fashion and even love fashion but the ones who say they “live for fashion” have seem to embraced and incorporated the worst
stereotypes of fashion.Â Everything is amplified…
They go out of their way to show you they know and that they are down so they become charicatures of what they think they should be,
Instead of taking fashion and personalizing it and making it their own, they just become this other thing….all of them…
so there is no real personality…just a shell of a “fashionable” person“
maybe this could just be summed up simply as young people Â following trends and not being themselves. either way, i like you just the way you are
what do you guys and girls say?
maybe this is a generation gap and me and AUNTY ELLE are dinosaurs who don’t know a thing.
or maybe some of you feel the same way.